My older daughter came home the other day and asked me “What’s the B-word? I am the only one in the class know nothing about it”, needless to say she got laughed at. A little background here, she WILL turn 10 in March 2012 (Yay for two digits! Big milestone!!) and is the second youngest in her class, everyone else is 10 years old at this point. Sure there are quite a few things she needs to catch up with but definitely not this one, which also got me thinking.
Why not? You ask.
Well, my girls do have a list of words – the ones they know not appropriate to say in public; and if you haven’t noticed, we speak Mandarin at home so there’s little chance we’ll use any of those words. Also, we say shoot instead of the other word, and only once had I dropped F-bomb because this dangerous drivers almost got us killed.
What’s the harm? You argue.
Yes, I understand and fully accept kids nowadays are much more exposed to the world than we were, and they are going to learn and talk those words anyway, sooner or later; this is one thing I am not in the rush for. I do believe we parents are still the biggest influences to kids at this age, it’s also a good reminder for us, or for me personally; that the more we say it the more likely it’ll become second nature without realizing it, what’s the plus side of that, really?
My response to this curious, confused 9-year-old is “If it’s a good word your friend will tell you about it, and if not then you probably don’t need to know”.
Sure, you have sympathy for my poor girls, and I may have not prepared them well for the real world; quite possibly I am blindfolded in this issue, or being a b*tch or a b*stard, but what could I have done differently or what would you do if the world they live in is full of these sh*t?
A little help here please??